ABD
Brent Detwiler
THE WOLF AMONGST THE SHEEP
The story of how Brent Detwiler infiltrated our family
Posted: 08/16/2025
AUGUST 16, 2025
9 MONTHS LATER...
It has been a little over 9 months that Brent Detwiler was confronted by the pastor, deacon, and husband of the woman whom he intentionally engaged in an affair with. You may have entirely forgotten about him, and I wouldn't find fault in that. Were it not for the affair and his obsessions, he would be nearly impossible to recall. However... when you once again envision Brent digging into his nostrils while contemplating life, it all seems to come right back into focus. And now, the thought arises, what in the ever-loving heck has been going on? What happened to the ol' Detwiler and the marriage he lit a matchstick beneath while simultaneously and sanctimoniously trying to split spiritual hairs? Is he still playing house husband with someone else's wife?
Well, my gosh! What if I told you that he is still in Florida, living with our mother, and unemployed. Is it at all surprising that he took down his confession of the affair from his blog, or that he is posting new content as if nothing happened? Would any of this shock you? I'd be willing to bet that an eye roll or the exhale of exasperation is more indicative of how the majority feel about B.D.
There's a saying- it's something about what happens when you step in excrement; you'll have a really difficult time removing it. When we think about our mother and the time that she has spent walking barefoot through the unholiest of dung, you would assume that she'd finally realize and be grossed out. Sadly, it seems she still believes it sacramental and refuses to stop squishing it between all ten of her toes. There is nothing we can say or do to convince her otherwise. The mirage is as real to her as Jesus himself, and from outside of the delusion, all we see is a woman becoming increasingly comfortable dancing in doody.
Meanwhile, divorce is eminent; the great severing is on the horizon. Following the confrontation and up until now, our mother has not wanted to reconcile or leave Brent's side. There is a very strange kind of loyalty that she has for this person. Meanwhile, her husband has begun to experience the sweet aroma of fresh air and the oxygen that comes with exiting a burning building. God has bestowed the peace and comfort that reaches far beyond our understanding. I have no doubt that He will redeem the time, and the marriage that was maliciously broken.
it is not PERSECUTORY
Our mother has endured natural and self-inflicted hardship due to her decisions surrounding Brent Detwiler, yet as mentioned, she appears to be resolute. Call it pride, a spiteful nature, a stubborn willfulness - whatever you call it, we can be confident that it isn't martyrdom or persecution. A difficult life has been entirely chosen by both my mother and Brent. Also, it's just an incredibly stupid decision. That said, we have a fairly clear understanding as to why Brent remains ever present and refuses to move on. Anyone who's followed this story likely has a few duly derived ideas as to why he continues to stick around as well.
EVALUATING INTENTIONALITY
Family members discuss the intentionality of the choices that have been made from time to time. On one hand, we feel strongly that Detwiler is manipulating and spiritually dominating her, taking advantage of someone with character traits and traumas that make her the perfect target. Here's the thing- Brent could stop this at anytime. He could pack up his bag of tricks and treats and run for the hills. As the self-professed biblical guru, he knows better, and therefore has the responsibility to do better. The onus is primarily his.
On the other hand, our mother is continuing to make it known through action and deed that she is choosing to remain in this arrangement. To my knowledge, she has not reached out to anyone asking for help to escape these circumstances. Does she feel stuck in the spiral of her decisions? Is Brent leaning heavily on her? Is he playing the part of a man-child, therefore compelling her sense of responsibility? Or, is she truly so enthralled that she pines for his approval, yearning to please and be pleasing? Perhaps all of the above. The mind is quite complex, after all, and especially when it's being successfully deceived.
BRENT WILL BE BRENT
We certainly realize that Brent may be feeding her compulsion to remain complicit, likely using push and pull tactics with any request or requirement that may be asked of her. The specifics here are of course speculatory, but after much correspondence with those who know him well, coupled with our own experiences, we have come to understand just the sort of person Brent Detwiler has shown himself to be. Past and present, his tendencies have not changed. The approach taken to remain unemployed while being supported by others is exactly the same. Despite having significant benefits under our mother's umbrella, he has no conviction about contributing nominally, while she bares the brunt of responsibility for their wellbeing. What an exemplary leader, a manly man, a godly specimen... said no one, ever. Will all of the real men please stand up? Brent Detwiler needs to hear what you have to say, as do I.
POOR JUDGEMENT
Our stepfather has gone out of his way on a number of occasions to implore his wife to safeguard her finances and her privacy when it comes to Brent. Has she or will she heed his advice? Absolutely not, that wouldn't prove her loyalty. It would also temper Brent's ability to be in control. From what we know of Detwiler, he craves accessibility. There is no such thing as boundaries. It would not surprise me in the least to find out that he monitors our mother's bank account, or that he expects to be consulted before any decision is made. It hasn't surprised others who have experienced his decades-long installation of domineering expectations.
THE FACTS
Facts are the things that are known or are proven to be true. I'll share just a few.
THE INFERENCES
Inferences are conclusions reached on the basis of evidence and reasoning. What we can infer from the above is that Brent Detwiler,
TO BRENT'S FAMILY & COMMUNITY
It will never be your fault that Brent is what he is and has done what he's done to people around him. I only ask that you never stop making known who he is and what he's done. In doing so, perhaps we can prevent this from continuing. I know there is a pattern here and it's time to shine the spotlight on it.
CHECKMATE
"Brent didn't anticipate you." This is what's been said, over and over again. Brent didn't consider that someone would rise to the occasion and refuse to back down. Because his patriarchy was shattered years ago and loyalty is to himself alone, he underestimated the fabric of fealty. You do not manipulate, misappropriate, or **** with this family. We have been through countless seasons of discomfort, and have faced every giant with stones in our hands: an army of Davids, as fallible as Moses. We harness the resilience of Job and the cunning of Esther and we are just as flawed as we are ferocious. So when you come into our home, pretend to be a friend and take what doesn't belong to you, you will be told to let it go and leave. Until such an instruction is respectfully followed, we will remain present and diligent in the ushering. Brent Detwiler needs to humble himself: he needs to get into his Jeep, job applications and suitcase in hand, and surrender himself to God.
SUMMARY
Divorce is coming, and in fact, mediation has just concluded. Brent Detwiler is holding onto this relationship with our mother because she is a liability if he loses his grip. In the meantime, her husband is able to see the silver lining, and rejoice. One day, our mother may wake up from this nightmare and realize the value in all she has thrown away, to include her children and grandchild. As for us, I thank God every day for those who have come into our lives, our relationships with each other, and that our toes are not the ones caked with caca.
Posted: 08/23/2025
AUGUST 25, 2025
FURTHER REFLECTIONS...
With the culmination of new information surfacing, our own situation continuing to evolve, insights and opinions have discernably changed. What once felt appropriate to label as pharasaical behavior on Brent's part now seems more accurately described as diabolical. With that, a decisive thought came to mind:
Brent Detwiler is Demonic.
Demonic : Demon : a source or agent of evil, harm, distress, or ruin....
A common theme in the aftermath of the damage caused by Brent was that he is not dissimilar to a Pharisee. However, when this comparison was recently up for discussion, I experienced a palpable realization that he may very well be demonic.
Here's the thing. When it comes to Brent Detwiler, it is not just about the hypocrisies; it goes beyond that. This is a new territory of antitheses. Brent has and is continuing to demonstrate the traits that define one who's been given over.
SIN VS DEMONIC BEHAVIOR
Let's look at some examples that compare sin, Brent's response, and what the better response could have looked like. As always, I welcome your thoughts here.
The Sin
> Participating in frequent, private conversations with a married woman.
Brent's Response
> Encouraging the private nature of these conversations.
> Allowing emotional intimacy and dependency to continue and to grow.
> Creating a dynamic where he and the wife align against the husband.
Better Response
> Going to the husband or to the church once an inappropriate pattern was detected.
> Setting boundaries which would discourage private conversations.
> Addressing the emotional dependency and surrogate husbandry he acknowledged.
The Sin
> Accepting large amounts of money in a secretive manner initiated by the wife.
Brent's Response
> Going through the motions of paying rent monthly, only to secretly take it back via PayPal.
> Never disclosing to the husband what was taking place but profiting from the deception.
> Keeping the funds even after the transactions were discovered by the family and husband.
Better Response
> Declining the large sum that was secretly being offered.
> Bringing the first transaction to the husband's attention in order to promote transparency.
> Returning all of the funds to the husband once this secret arrangement was discovered.
The Sin
> Engaging in a sexually explicit affair with a married woman, never forthcoming.
Brent's Response
> Continuing to engage in the relationship, even after being discovered.
> Making plans with the wife to get an apartment together, and for her to leave the marriage.
> Disrespecting the husband's rules and home, even when generously being allowed to stay.
Better Response
> Putting a full stop to the relationship after the first infraction, going directly to the husband.
> Leaving the household immediately in response to the damage that was caused.
> Breaking all communication with the wife so that God could work.
> Apologizing to the entire family for the hypocrisy and betrayal that occurred.
The Sin
> Continuing to live with the married woman whose marriage you broke up.
Brent's Response
> Promoting the separation and breakdown of the marriage.
> Taking advantage of the opportunity and support the wife provides.
> Attending a new church with the wife as if nothing is wrong or should be accounted for.
Better Response
> Packing up and leaving the apartment and the wife.
> Apologizing for taking advantage and using her as a self-serving resource.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
Are Brent's actions and reactions demonic? Is his behavior defying God? Is he just a human with a sin nature? Has God given him over? I believe that whatever the answer, what Brent has done exceeds the moral fabric of the average person, Christian or not. Detwiler knows what he's doing; he is actively practicing duality and believes he is carrying out God's work. That is a frightening place to be. ~
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